What do you do when a girl doesn’t text back? Scream? Smash your phone? Send her an ultimatum?
First off, what does "wrong" look like?
Hi Alice. Just so you know, you missed out on dating a really nice guy. We could have been something special. But you SCREWED UP!
Not good. It makes you sound like a psychopathic loser.
I understand what you feel like. You finally met this super hot lady, and the girl doesn’t text back. You have a connection, there was a strong attraction, and she won’t even reply? Why?
Why won’t she text back?
- She’s on her period
- She lost her phone
- She fell asleep
- She’s with her boyfriend
- She’s not interested
- Alien invasion
The truth is, you don’t know why the girl doesn’t text back because you’re not magic. You can’t read minds, so there’s not much reason to worry about it.
Here’s the big, mind-blowing advice for when a girl doesn’t text back:
That’s it. You wait until she texts you back. And then you wait some more. Because if you’ve texted her and she isn’t replying, and then you text her again, and again – you seem needy and desperate. Both of which guarantee she won’t text you back ever.
I’ve had girls text me back two weeks later. I’d pretty much forgotten about them at that point. Some will reply in a day or two. It doesn’t matter. What matters is HOW YOU FEEL about it.
Does her not replying promptly annoy, upset, or offend you? Perhaps it’s rude? Maybe you really liked her and feel rejected. I know, it sucks. But I have a special tactic that will make you feel a lot better.
That’s always the answer. When a girl doesn’t text back, get off the couch, go outside, and meet more girls. Approach ten, twenty, or thirty more. Get so many phone numbers that you don’t know what to do with them. By that point, you’ll probably have forgotten about that one who didn’t text you back, right?
Cold approaching is the ability to meet women you’ve never met before. You can go direct with a “Hi, I thought you were cute and had to say hello.” Or you can go indirect by asking for directions or her opinion on a new cocktail to try out.
The benefit of meeting more girls is that it creates a sense of abundance. Women love a man who has a sense of abundance because it means he won’t be jealous, controlling, needy, or weird. So the more women you meet, the less in scarcity you are.
Learning how to cold approach women is a win-win situation.
Is there a "how to text a girl" trick that will get a girl to text you back? Well, yes and no.
You could be blunt and give an ultimatum:
Each one of these could go well, and she might reply, which is great. But if she doesn’t reply, then not so great, right?
As usual, it’s UP TO HER to respond, so when a girl doesn’t text back, the best advice I can give is to go meet more women.
If she isn’t texting back, chances are also that you didn’t make a good enough first impression. Maybe you said something she considers weird, or you’re too old or too young for her. Perhaps you had a shy or nervous nature when you approached her, and she likes confident bad boys.
It’s hard to tell where you went wrong – because she won’t text back!
See how it drives you crazy when a girl doesn’t text back? I hate it, too. But there’s not a lot you can do about it. So why stress out?
- Go to the gym
- Learn guitar
- Start a small business
- Call a friend
- Go for a run
- Meet more women!
I wish I had the one, magic text message to get her to text you back, but it’s just not gonna happen. I’m not Harry Potter. But I bet even Harry gets pissed when a girl doesn’t text back. Or she doesn’t send an owl – whatever.
What you do not want to do is send a long stream of messages, especially if she’s not responding. This comes across as weird and desperate.
You can’t control a girl or ever truly know why she isn’t texting back. So the best thing to do is wait. That’s it. Don't worry about what to text her to re-initiate contact. Wait until she replies. Because if you send a long series of texts, it makes you look desperate and weird.
There are a few funny or honest follow-up texts you can make, but don’t text more than one.
In the meantime, learn how to cold approach girls and go meet more women. Then you’ll feel more in abundance and better about yourself, which will likely mean more girls who will text you back in the future.